Anxiety is the best as well as the worst part of a date. The thought of unfamiliar people and environment might boost your mental and physical anxiety through the roof. This is one of the most challenging things to plan a first date or just an outing with your significant other.
That’s why we bring you this article which highlights the types of date ideas you need when you’re drowning in your anxiety Because mental illness should not get in your way of thinking straight and having fun.
Many people suffering from anxiety surveyed and here’s what they said:
1. ” I like dates where both of us can just chill out. Me and my partner like to play video games while we lay next to each other, even if we’re playing different games, we can always turn to each other and kiss. We can be with each other without talking or making it too intense.” – Summer S.
2. “At home dates would be ideal because I’d be in my environment. I apply the same for hanging out with my friends too; I don’t have to know everything that we are doing and I don’t mind having everything in store, but I need to discuss possibilities of what all of us could be doing so that can keep an escape plan for each place we hang out. Or I just try to get to the movies because not talking for two hours helps me keep myself calm and then I have things to talk about after! – Hannah G.
3. “I need to keep an escape plan and zero pressure. My first date is always coffee or a drink. There’s no pressure on you and also the small amount of time doesn’t make me stick long to socialize, and an easy escape because I always meet them at that place (drive in). And yes, always in public, regardless of where I met them.” – Carmin R.
4. “I’d rather not decide on what to do, but I don’t want anything and any place where there are a lot of people crowded and talking. My first serious date was this great guy. We met his brother and sister at a shooting range. There was a serene feeling about not having to start a conversation because of the protective gear. The shot of the guns was better than having to hold a conversation. And surprisingly, there was a sense of a different type of confidence when I saw him shooting, one which I hadn’t had before with him.” – Karrah M.
5. “Anything like walking outside in the sunshine: farmers market, strolling in the park, beach walk, etc.. Dark enclosed spaces and sitting nonchalantly over dinner and staring at each other is way too much for me. I get apprehensive, my thoughts take over, and I for one can’t focus. Moving around, being outside in the open, feeling the sunlight on my face and other things to look around really help me.” – Phoebe Z.
6. “Seafood dinner, walk and chats for a while, a clear night overlooking the water. I enjoy the still, calm and serene water by the docks and like walking around the park. It’s very calming, well lit and quiescent, so I can see and pretty much hear from all other aspects. Then I’d like to cook us movie snacks together and then just relax with a movie. The best thing for me is when I can’t turn off to distract my mind from something else. She comforts me in a way far more better than medication, and the VA. Making an effort to make time when there isn’t means more to me than anything, and that is a huge deal.” – James M.
7. “A movie is the best date not because of the jitter but because it’s dark and quiet. The best part being your date can’t see how anxious or nervous I am if it’s dark. The worst place according to me is to go on a dinner, I won’t be able to eat with someone who’s looking at me.” – Lacie J.
8. “Some quiet place, where there’s not much happening. The best date I’ve gone on was going to a baseball field to hit baseballs. It was quiet, and of course, there was a lot of pressure, but at the same time, it was super casual and fun. He’s a baseball coach, so I even got few pointers which thankfully broke the ice. I liked the fact that I could take all of my anxiety and literally hit it, and the best part was that we that we had something to talk about continuously.” – Casey A.
9. “My ideal date would be to get up early and then to go to this sweet local diner near me and to get some breakfast, while they will tell me all about themselves. Which would then be followed by going to a comic convention? It would finish off with us getting some ice cream and going for a pleasant drive with no destination in mind, for a while, just jamming to music and sharing our own stories until I drove them home.” – Troy H.
10. “It’s My favorite coffee shop so that it’s a familiar place, and there’ isn’t any pressure to reveal my like and dislikes about anything; especially food. And a conversation that has to do with each other’s lives rather than just going with small talks and then going Dutch, so there’s no feeling of having to prove anything too soon.” – Tommie M.
11. “If it’s the first date, then I prefer meeting somewhere in public where I am aware of the menu. If it’s with someone I’ve been dating for a while, then take me to a museum or an art gallery, or even a day on the beach is fine as long as any of them doesn’t involve many people around. I love to know what’s going to happen and when! Surprises make me have cold feet, but if you must, then please give me hint about what to expect.” – Brandi P.
12. “A cozy night in baking. Something really simple. I prefer to stay in than be out with somewhere noisy and crowded with people I might know staring in all directions.” – Beth G.
13. “Going to my favorite park. That’s my comfort zone, and I don’t like to psych myself out thinking about the what-ifs. When I went on the first date with my now husband, we met at my favorite park under my favorite tree and talked.” – Chanel Y.
14. “Grab some takeouts of whatever we want to eat, taking a drive to have a nice view somewhere, eating and talking about everything then going back to my place and play video games.” – Zoe S.
15. “Anything not where it involves the center of public, preferably in nature. Like a picnic or a visit to the beach, or a camping trip for just the two of us. Things such as going out to dinner or movies just set my anxiety off because I’m not too anxious about getting public affection. I like dates that are personal and private.” – Shelby N.
These are some of the ideas for your anxious partner!
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